Love Thrives In A Community
Dr. Caroline Leaf: We cannot survive without love.
We cannot survive without love. Love thrives in a community. Humanity is wired to work and thrive in community. In quantum physics, “entanglement” is one of the most important laws—it is often referred to as the law of relationships. We are entangled humans living in an entangled universe; we need each other.
It is important that we create safe spaces in our community where people suffering from the vagaries of life can come and speak about what they going through with someone they trust, creating communities where people feel that they belong. In fact, engaging positively with people in our social support network correlates with a number of desirable physical and mental outcomes. Community involvement has been associated with mental health and cognitive resilience, reduction of chronic pain, lower blood pressure, and improved cardiovascular health!
What does community look like?
· It is so important for parents or guardians to constantly tell and show their children that they are loved. Hug them, tell them they are needed and wanted, and tell them they are special. Parents or guardians also need to create a safe space for their children and show them that they will not be judged or condemned. Many of the patterns for mental ill-health begin during childhood, which is why it is so important to teach children to express their feelings in a healthy and safe environment.
· When you feel burdened with work, emotionally challenged, or are going through something, for instance, try stopping for a moment and helping someone else, even if it is just to listen, hug, or encourage them. Send an email or text to someone, telling them you are thinking of them, or invite someone to dinner instead of eating alone.
· Volunteer! Serving others is a wonderful way to become part of a meaningful community, improving both your health and the health of your community.
· Think about what you could do to get out of the house and foster community in your area. Perhaps start a book club or community garden, or arrange dinner parties and invite someone new each time. Get to know your neighbors and invite them for a walk or for coffee, or join a local community or spiritual center.
· Listen to others in a nonjudgmental, loving, and supportive way as often as you can. In fact, make this your modus operandi and watch your problems turn around. So: look at the person, and just listen and breathe until they finish, then ask, “How can I help you? What do you need?”
This is informative and NOT individual medical advice.