A Pair-of-Docs: The Serenity Prayer #2 What Can I Change?
God grant me
to accept the
things I cannot change;
change the things I can;
and wisdom to
know the difference.
Living one day
at a time;
moment at a time;
hardships as the pathway to peace;
taking, as He
did, this sinful world
as it is, not
as I would have it;
He will make all things right
if I surrender
to His Will;
that I may be
reasonably happy in this life
happy with Him
forever in the
The ingredients for a life of serenity, that
internal state of being calm, at peace, and untroubled, is not a call to
passivity, but a call to action changing what can be changed and spending little
time if any thinking about things you cannot change.
“A state of inward serenity requires that
you “identify and separate matters so that you can say clearly to yourself
which are externals not under your control, and which have to do with the choices
you actually control.” (Epictetus, Manual for
Out of Your Control
other people do.
reactions to you
thoughts about you
attempts to manipulate you.
You can’t control if a person likes or
In Your Control
you ruminate upon (controlling what you
What you think directly influences how you feel and how you behave.
Philippians 4:8 (MSG)
… I'd say you'll do best by filling your
minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling,
gracious—the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to
praise, not things to curse.
What you say to yourself (self-talk)
You have an internal dialogue going on all
the time. What are you telling
yourself? Are you positive and
optimistic about your self or are you beating yourself down with the negative
aspects of your life.
For we are
God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the
good things he planned for us long ago.
Your attitude (be like Jesus, be positive)
What life does to us in the long run depends
upon what life finds in us…So the thing that matters is not what happens to
you, but what you do with it after it does happen to you.” (E Stanley Jones,
Victorious Living, p. 227)
gotten anything at all out of following Christ, if his love has made any
difference in your life, if being in a community of the Spirit means anything
to you, if you have a heart, if you care—then do me a favor: Agree with each
other, love each other, be deep-spirited friends. Don't push your way to the
front; don't sweet-talk your way to the top. Put yourself aside, and help
others get ahead. 4 Don't be obsessed with getting your own advantage. Forget
yourselves long enough to lend a helping hand.
Your perception of events.
Perception is merely a lens or mindset from which we view
people, events, and things.” The
way you see events becomes your reality. "Perception molds,
shapes, and influences our experience of our personal reality” (How your perception is your reality,
according to psychologists | Well+Good (wellandgood.com).
James 1:2 & 4 (MSG)
Consider it a sheer gift, friends, when tests and challenges
come at you from all sides. Let it do its work so you become mature and
well-developed, not deficient in any way.
What you say to others
The way we speak to others determines much
about what is in our heart. We build
others up by our words of encouragement to them. If we are always tearing others down and
speaking negatively about them we will never truly value people. In order for God’s Spirit to soar within us
we have to speak to others the way God would speak to others. (How Do You Talk To Others? | John Barrett
in your speech. The goal is to bring out the best in others in a conversation,
not put them down, not cut them out.
How you treat others.
How you treat others is a reflection of who
you are, your inner disposition towards yourself.
Galatians 6:10 (NLT)
… whenever we have the opportunity,
we should do good to everyone …
Titus 3:3-5 (MSG) It
wasn't so long ago that we ourselves were stupid and stubborn, dupes of sin,
ordered every which way by our glands, going around with a chip on our
shoulder, hated and hating back. But when God, our kind and loving Savior God,
stepped in, he saved us from all that.
A person seeking attention can use drama to
immerse you into their story. It is
Drama doesn’t just walk into your life out
of nowhere, you either create it, invite it, or associate with people that
bring it.” (25
Helpful Bible Verses About Drama (biblereasons.com)
You grab a
mad dog by the ears when you butt into a quarrel that's none of your business.
What you do
You are in control of your behavior. What you do is up to you.
effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to
knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and
to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness, brotherly kindness; and to
brotherly kindness, love.
3:23 (MSG) Work from the heart for your real Master, for God ...
When you focus on
what you can’t control, you waste time and energy and destroy your serenity.
Trying to control or change what isn’t within your control will only
drain your energy and leave you in torment. What you can control is how you
perceive a situation, how you react to it, and how you respond. Always Choose to Focus on What is Within
Your Control — OMAR ITANI
When you’re faced with a problem, the first step you should take is to identify the source and cause of the problem and whether the problem is out of your control or within your control. If the problem is within your control, come up with possible solutions and options for handling the problem. Weigh all the facts, evaluate all your options, make the best decision possible, and then take action. Identify Things You Can And Cannot Control | Performance Property | Gerald Lucas