Right Relationships with Others #1
Right Relationships with Others #1
What is the biggest source of heartbreak, pain, and suffering in your life? Is it not relationships that went or were bad? [Psalm 41:9] Another name for relating wrongly is sin. We are both victims and perpetrators of sin. We are in desperate need of reconciliation. Reconciliation is creating harmony where there was strife, division, and discord. Reconciliation ends estrangement. God’s love for humanity didn’t change (1 Timothy 2:4). God creates a plan to bring reconciliation to humanity one person at a time. That plan is called the gospel.
John 3:16 (MSG)
"This is how much God loved the world: He gave his Son, his one and only Son. And this is why: so that no one need be destroyed; by believing in him, anyone can have a whole and lasting life.
Estranged from God destruction awaits. We manifest our destinies in this life with the bad or broken relationship being the red flag warning us that something is wrong. Reflect on your relational history, and see that when relationships are bad it is because of sin, this estrangement from God. Acknowledge it, own it, and know that you are stuck in this situation both as the victim and as the perpetrator. Come to understand your need for reconciliation with God.
1 John 2:1-2 (MSG)
“…we have a Priest-Friend in the presence of the Father: Jesus Christ, righteous Jesus. When he served as a sacrifice for our sins, he solved the sin problem for good—not only ours but the whole world's.”
Jesus' death upon the cross creates the possibility for you to be acquitted of all thoughts, words, and deeds that are not righteous. Jesus atoned for your sin so that upon His account you can be forgiven. Jesus’ actions remove Adam’s curse and the sorry record of sins and ruined relationships. Faith is belief in action, no proof, no guarantees, not a blind leap because you have examined the evidence and believe that Jesus is the way, the truth, the life (John 14:6).
It's the word of faith that welcomes God to go to work and set things right for us. This is the core of our preaching. Say the welcoming word to God—"Jesus is my Master"—embracing, body and soul, God's work of doing in us what he did in raising Jesus from the dead. That's it. You're not "doing" anything; you're simply calling out to God, trusting him to do it for you. That's salvation. With your whole being you embrace God setting things right, and then you say it, right out loud: "God has set everything right between him and me!"
And whoever calls out for help to me, God, will be saved."
Once you're convinced that he is right and righteous, you'll recognize that all who practice righteousness are God's true children.
Hebrews 10:24-25 (MSG)
“Let's see how inventive we can be in encouraging love and helping out, not avoiding worshiping together as some do but spurring each other on…”
Proverbs 27:6 ESV
“Faithful are the wounds of a friend…”
“They may cut you with truth, but they’ll use that same Sword to destroy the enemy of your soul in prayer and support” (The Importance of "Right" Relationships (soulharvestwc.org).
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 (MSG)
It's better to have a partner than go it alone. Share the work, share the wealth. And if one falls, the other helps, but if there's no one to help, tough!
You watch each other’s backs. You cheer one another on. This is not a fair-weather relationship: “… a true friend sticks by you…” (Proverbs 18:24 (MSG). You stand side by side facing the challenges of life.
Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God.
[True Friends] don’t just call us out, they call us UP! They call us to a life of honor, humility, consideration, empathy, and diligence. [ The Importance of "Right" Relationships (soulharvestwc.org) ] With a true friend you know that your heart is safe in their hands.
Be friends with those who are wise, and you will become wise. Choose fools to be your friends, and you will have trouble.
You have to have the desire to create this kind of relationship with others. So it is imperative that if you want these kinds of friends in your life, you need to be one.
In your notes, and later on the website, you’ll find a list of 30 behaviors that describe what true friends do.
Be devoted to one another (Romans 12:10)
Honor one another above yourselves (Romans 12:10)
Live in harmony with one another (Romans 12:16)
Build up one another (Romans 14:19; 1 Thessalonians 5:11)
Be likeminded towards one another (Romans 15:5)
Accept one another (Romans 15:7)
Admonish one another (Romans 15:14; Colossians 3:16) Greet one another (Romans 16:16)
Care for one another (1 Corinthians 12:25)
Serve one another (Galatians 5:13)
Bear one another's burdens (Galatians 6:2)
Forgive one another (Ephesians 4:2, 32; Colossians 3:13)
Be patient with one another (Ephesians 4:2; Colossians 3:13)
Speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15, 25)
Be kind and compassionate to one another (Ephesians 4:32)
Speak to one another with psalms, hymns and spiritual songs (Ephesians 5:19)
Submit to one another (Ephesians 5:21, 1 Peter 5:5)
Consider others better than yourselves (Philippians 2:3)
Look to the interests of one another (Philippians 2:4)
Bear with one another (Colossians 3:13)
Teach one another (Colossians 3:16)
Comfort one another (1 Thessalonians 4:18)
Encourage one another (1 Thessalonians 5:11)
Exhort one another (Hebrews 3:13)
Stir up [provoke, stimulate] one another to love and good works (Hebrews 10:24)
Show hospitality to one another (1 Peter 4:9)
Employ the gifts that God has given us for the benefit of one another (1 Peter 4:10)
Clothe yourselves with humility towards one another (1 Peter 5:5)
Pray for one another (James 5:16)
Confess your faults to one another (James 5:16)
Galatians 5:13-15 (MSG)
It is absolutely clear that God has called you to a free life. Just make sure that you don't use this freedom as an excuse to do whatever you want to do and destroy your freedom. Rather, use your freedom to serve one another in love; that's how freedom grows. For everything we know about God's Word is summed up in a single sentence: Love others as you love yourself. That's an act of true freedom. If you bite and ravage each other, watch out—in no time at all you will be annihilating each other, and where will your precious freedom be then?